The wedding is for the couple getting married, not the guests.
That said if you feel like throwing a nerdy gamer wedding then you might as well do it. People have all types of weddings, I am not a cowgirl by any means but when my friend held a rustic wedding I was totally fine with it. Even though the music made me cringe and the whole atmosphere wasn’t so much my thing.
So when it was time for us to get married, we knew that we were just going to host the wedding that we enjoyed. It would be something fun and relaxed. And sure, maybe we would cringe looking back at it in twenty or thirty years.
But then maybe not.
Honestly I thought the general nerd culture “theme” was better than focusing in on one specific property. Instead mix and match the nerd stuff so that there is something there which at least everyone will get.
Of course it’s still a wedding.
There are also a lot of ways to style your wedding invitation when you don’t focus on a specific topic. For example, you could do something fun and kinda retro for the invitation that maybe doesn’t fit with the other aspects of the wedding. For example, we had ninjas as best men. It sounds sort of crazy, but they didn’t wear the masks, they were more like elegant ninjas with that head band thing and the black of their costumes with the white highlights looked great. When it was combined together. My maids didn’t want to be maidens, so I just dressed them in fire engine red dresses. It looks alright. But I would have prefered maidens. Battle maidens. But I can also understand why they weren’t into the idea. It sort of felt like I couldn’t really ask them to either, I mean if they would feel embarrassed and out of place, you don’t need to do that to people. You just don’t. If you wanna throw a themed party, do that. Don’t make everyone who cares about you sit through your nerdy fantasy just because you can afford it. It’s the same thing as ultra-religious dry weddings, but on the other end of the uncomfortable spectrum.
If you’re forcing all guests to do stuff, then yeah that isn’t cool. But if it’s just how you dressed and some of the decoration they shouldn’t throw a hissy fit over it. Trust me, some will, they always do. Their is no pleasing everybody. Make an attempt to be good hosts, but then stop. Don’t worry about the guest. It isn’t about them.
Because, I am not aware that we required to have people attend our wedding. You invite people and they showed up. If you aren’t certain it will work with your larger pool of acquaintances just do it among friends who really enjoyed it and share your interests, chances are, your families will get a kick out of it.
If you can’t indulge them having the wedding they want, then you’re not a true friend anyway so who gives a shit?
In the end it isn’t about the catering, the ceremony, or the reception. It isn’t the amount of money that you spent. Or the rest of the trappings that go along with it. The decision to get married, in my opinion, is the biggest moment of a wedding. Nothing is more beautiful than when you realize the person you’re with is the person you’d spend the rest of your life with – and that person feels the same.